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If He Says He's Not Looking for a Relationship
Does
this sound familiar: You meet a great guy. He’s super attractive.
Smart. Sexy. Ya’ll have so much in common from how you like your
coffee to similar political beliefs and after spending time with him
you realize he’ll be the perfect father for the 2.3 kids you all will
have together.
The problem: He says he’s not looking for a relationship right now
but he’d love to be friends. So of course you agree because you just
know that once he gets to know you (and we mean know in all possible
meanings of the word) then he’ll know you’re his Mrs. Right just as
you already know he’s your Mr. Right. Right? Wrong.
How
many times have you or someone you know fell into that oh so easily
slipped into trap mentioned above: women so anxious to be with
someone, that they overlook what the person is telling then and end up
incredibly hurt and angry in the end when things don’t work out they
way they’d hoped.
Ladies, you’ve got to understand that when a man says, “I’m not
looking for a relationship, right now,” he means he’s NOT LOOKING FOR
A RELATIONSHIP RIGHT NOW! It’s just that simple. He may think you’re
great.
He
may think the sex with you is the best he’s ever had. He may think
you’re the best thing since cornbread. But that still doesn’t mean
he’s looking to make you his lady.
The
reality is for men relationships have a lot to do about where they are
in life. Maybe he wants to focus on his career. Maybe he just got out
of a relationship and wants to be single for awhile.
Maybe he just isn’t ready for the responsibility of having a
girlfriend. Whatever the reason it adds up to the same thing: He isn’t
looking for a relationship right now. So listen when the man of your
dreams tells you that. Listen and listen well.
Be
his friend. Be his confidante. And most importantly keep your panties
on. And maybe just maybe when he’s ready for a relationship he’ll
remember what a great friend he had, one who was there for him when it
mattered and think, “Why look somewhere else for Mrs. Right when she
has been right here with me all along.”
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